Solving sadness😔
How sadness is a solvable equation and the two methods to solve it. (REPOST)
January 12, 2025
Hello, Dear Reader!
Tody, I thought I would repost one of my most popular articles because, one, the idea behind it is something to be reminded of and two, I didn’t have any creative ideas🙃
Lack and Stack
Sadness comes from a lack of options. —Which is why it it feels like hopelessness. Anxiety comes from many options but a lack of priorities. - Alex Hormozi
Why do you and I feel sad? Mostly, it’s because we feel like there is no other option. There is no cure for the disease. A lack of options on the board. Maybe an order was received, and you are obligated to complete it under the perceived bitter direction provided by others.
All these reasons for feeling sad or hopeless have two remedies, as far as I can tell you. The first one is to change your fucking language. We’re not taught in school how much influence the words we tell ourselves have over our actions. It absolutely does.
Change your words, change your life.
A small stepping stone to changing your language for the better is to see an activity as a choice that you made. Say, “I choose to go to school to garner experiences and push myself, which will build my character in the process.” Not only does changing the word ‘have’ to ‘choose’ solve the perception of a lack of options, it also gives a feeling of liberty and autonomy rather than oppression.
Widen your eyesight
The second remedy is to widen your eyesight to see more options. Listen, there HAS to be better ways to cope with the unfortunate problems that keep coming consistently. So, the first step for this remedy is to keep hope alive. Trust me, there are far better ways to fall asleep quicker than to make your eyes and brain sore from the endless doomscrolling. The second step is to research more options. Look far and wide for the perfect fit, as finding new habits is like shopping for clothes. You search everything until you find the best pair of shirt you can find (healthy coping mechanism) and replace it with the old, overworn, and ugly shirt you have (unhealthy coping mechanism). So, research better options if you feel sad about something. Add more tools to your toolbox, and replace the rusted ones. And do actually use the new tool. Because the bridge between what you want and you is taking action. So, start small, do research, pick up a habit you need and replace it with one you don't, and do the new habit for one day and journal your experience in detail.
BONUS
Every day do a good deed that will put a smile of joy on someone’s face. -Dale Carnegie
A remedy for sadness that I have come across recently is serving other people. Giving love and value to other people. Spreading acts of kindness. Showing gratitude for all. A small stepping stone for this is to write 3 sentences of gratitude towards people you don’t particularly like. For example, “I’m grateful for Tom because his competitive nature makes me train and perform my best on the court.” Be very specific with the gratitude sentence, as shown above.