Avoidance and guitars🎸🙈
The kriptonite for happiness
Sunday, February 23
Closing your eyes won't cause the world to stop
Aren’t there moments of life where you just get so pissed off and resentful of the responsibilities of life? You think you are tired, but that alarm still rings. Your dad calls you for the daily errands and so on. These loads feel so shit and bitter at times because they were given to you involuntarily.
It’s the cards you were dealt with in life. You don’t have control over where you were born. Functioning with the same logic, these family loads like picking up dog shit and giving medicine to the old ones, you are just expected to oblige with these loads.
Sure, loads like such aren’t rocket science, but at moments of vulnerability and weakness, even tasks like these get out the worst in us. You literally and physically do not want to do the thing. It’s so bitter at the moment, and the mind rejects any ownership and accountability during weak moments.
Battles like such are fought in solitude for a reason. Those rage outbursts when you throw your phone just because that daily obligation seems so shit. They feel like that because they are a brutal reminder that you are capable of handling more than this. You don’t feel like you can in the moment, but that is when you actually should lean into that and win.
Now here are some solutions on how to do so:
1. No zero days
This is a principle to hold dear every day. It’s the one push-up that’s still a workout. Sure, nothing is going to happen after doing the smallest thing possible of the work, but it’s rather about the mindset and maintaining consistency. No zero days will give you the mindset and perception of a person that does not give up and shows up always. A great principle for the bitter loads.
2. Your moral idol is always watching you
For some, it’s god; for others, it’s their favorite character. The underlying goal and root are the same. Think about how your moral idol would react if they saw your acts of avoidance and resentment. If they are not particularly proud, do something that would make them proud. The application of this brings out the good in us.
We’re going to have to face it anyway; avoiding it is just removing happiness for our future selves.
The guitar theory
Imagine you are playing a guitar. But there is an issue; the tunes produced from it are dull and poor. The strings are too loose. So to obviously make it sound better, you tighten it, making it sharp and strong. The tumes produced from those sharp strings are beautiful.
However. Too rigid strings cannot allow a diverse set of tunes. (I do apologize if a guitar enthusiast is reading this, as I have no clue on what it really does.) But in general, a sharp yet flexible set of strings is ideal.
The same applies for us. If we’re too rigid and unadaptable, we won’t get to explore new opportunities at the moment. If we’re too loose, we won’t be sharp enough to get any output whatsoever. So a perfect mix between the two would make us better guitars?